6 Honest Signs You Have An Authentic Personality That’s Too Real For People To Handle
Do you ever feel like people change the way they act around you? As if they never say what they’re really thinking?
This may feel like they simply don’t like you, however that may not be the case at all. In fact it can often be an indication that they admire you.
The reason could very well be the fact that your personality is so real it intimidates them.
They just can’t deal with your ability to think for yourself and ignore stereotypes.
If you think this sounds like you, you might identify with these traits.
1) You say what you mean and mean what you say
So many people are afraid to speak their mind because they don’t want to be criticized.
They don’t want to be seen as “weird” for thinking differently than everyone else.
But you’re not like this.
You have to express what you’re feeling because it would be inauthentic not to. It would be superficial, and in your mind, nothing good ever comes from superficial communication.
You know that if you’re going to develop meaningful connections with others and make a positive impact in life, then you have to ignore the naysayers and express yourself fully. It’s the only way.
2) You don’t depend on others for your happiness
We’ve all been there. You know, the relationship that consumes your whole being and then when it’s all over, you feel utterly traumatized.
But this was a learning lesson you didn’t take for granted. It made you realize that the only way forward is being happy with who you are, whether you’re single or in a relationship.
You love having authentic relationships, but you also know that it’s your responsibility to look after yourself.
As Buddha said:
“No one saves us but ourselves. No one can and no one may. We ourselves must walk the path.”
3) You don’t judge people
When you’re comfortable with who you are, there’s no need to judge other people to make yourself feel better.
You find it much more satisfying to be curious. You know there’s much more to a person than how they look or even how they talk.
We all go through shit in our lives, and you know that nothing is ever black and white.
You prefer to focus on the good in other people and live your life free of toxic energy.
4) You love hanging out with people who have unique characteristics
Society has a way of stereotyping everyone into a small box that can be difficult to escape from.
This can make people act like robots, which can get really tiring and boring to deal with.
This is why you love spending time with people who have unique characteristics. It’s refreshing, it’s real and it makes life fun.
You also find it easier to make meaningful connections with these types of people. As they’ve escaped from the limiting chains of society’s stereotypes, they’re more willing to express themselves honestly.
Seeing as you do the same, this can ignite a special connection that expands your mind and makes you more hopeful in humanity.
5) You can’t stand small talk
It’s not so much the boring questions that annoys you. It’s the routine, superficial answers that irks you to your core.
When someone says “I’m good”, it lacks so much meaning that it really shouldn’t be said.
This is why you stay way from small-talk. For you, it only serves to reinforce the robotic robots that most people have become.
You want to know how someone is really doing. You want them to be honest, to express themselves and not care about other people judging them.
You want to know the purpose behind someone’s actions and what they really find joyful in life.
These are the kinds of conversations that get your juices flowing.
6) Action is what matters to you
We all know that person that’s a smooth talker. They say all the right things and seem ridiculously articulate, but when it comes down to it, they don’t back it up with action.
This is even more the case with the rise of the Internet. You can appear how you want to appear without backing it up with results.
These superficial words can fool most people, but not you.
You know that action is the only thing that matters. You use your critical thinking skills to assess whether someone is the real deal.
You’ve become so good at it that you can smell bullshit from a mile away.
Written by Laif Beck