We’ve all been there. You make a new friend, who seems incredibly nice, only to later find that they really just wanted to take advantage of you. In hindsight the signs were there all along, but how come we never seem to see it before they take advantage of us?
After all, as Marilyn Monroe once so sassily put it: “Sweetie, if you’re going to be two faced, at least make one of them pretty.”
Fortunately, there are at least a few key signs that we can learn to commonly recognize in those who might be trying to manipulate and take advantage of us.
Consider these five key signs someone may not actually care about you, but are just looking for a chance to use you:
They don’t listen.
In particular, you may notice your conversations tend to be pretty one-sided: They want to talk about what’s going on in their life, not what’s going on in yours. These people are not naturally any good at actively listening to you, or participating in your side of the conversation. One exception: If they note that you’re losing interest, they may shift the conversation with a “So what’s going on with you?” but that isn’t because they’re actually interested. No, they’re just trying to keep you on the line.