15 Things You Need to Know If You Love a Person with ADD
It’s true, an individual with ADD has a totally different mind than you might be used to.
For example, concentration, individuals with ADD can’t focus when they are emotional or when their mind is diverted. However, when they are keen on a particular subject, they zone in so profoundly that its difficult to pull them out of that zone. Beginning a task can be difficult; however stopping it is a much greater task.
Understanding how an individual with ADD thinks and feels will help you to be more patient, tolerant, loving, and compassionate.
Here are 15 Things You Need to Know If You Love a Person with ADD:
1. They have a dynamic personalities
The ADD mind doesn’t stop. There’s no on/off switch. This could be a burden or blessing depending on how its used.
2. They have problems staying focused (on things that disinterest them)
These individuals can be quite particular about what topics they lend their full attention. They are not the best people to communicate small details to such as asking them about how you look or what to eat for lunch. If you take the time to ask them periodically what they might be thinking about or interested in, you may gain advanced insights into the inner workings of their minds while learning how to better communicate and connect with them.
3. Their mind races when they are emotional
If they are put into a troublesome situation, or if they are upset with something that may have happened earlier in the day, an individual with ADD can’t focus on anything else. This makes focus on work, discussion, and social circumstances almost unbearable.
4. They concentrate very intensely
Once something captures their attention and the doors of their psyche open, its like starting an engine and losing the key. They will keep going until they either run out of gas or the task is complete. This also can make it difficult to capture their attention while they are in the midst of a project.
5. Their feelings tend to be unregulated
For an individual with ADD, their feelings are flying wild, out of control and can’t be contained. Complex emotions can make the wires in their brains become tangled making thought and sentiments hard to process.
6. They are prone to verbal outbursts
Their intense feelings are difficult to manage. Since they impulsively say whatever they think, they tend to say things they later wish they hadn’t. It’s impossible for them to alter their words before they speak them. If they did, it was a special and intentful occasion.
7. They have social anxiety
Feeling uncomfortable realizing that they are different than others, individuals with ADD are regularly uncomfortable in social circumstances. When they are anxious, they will say something silly or respond inappropriately. Holding back feels more secure.
8. They are profoundly intuitive
For individuals with ADD, the surface is an invisible exterior that they easily penetrate. They see past it. This is the most pleasant part of ADD. This motivational quality is the thing that makes imaginative prodigies. Designers, craftsmen, musical artists, and scholars flourish in this zone.
9. They have the ability to think outside the box
Another wonderful part of ADD is that although they think differently, their abstract minds see answers for issues that the normal mind can’t see.
10. They are very unorganized
Piles are their preferred system of organizing their things. When a task is finished, papers related to it are put in a heap, where they stay until the piles develop too high. That is the point at which the individual with ADD tends to get overwhelmed, annoyed, and is forced to clean up. Individuals with ADD must be careful to not become hoarders. It’s hard for an individual with ADD to keep things in order because their mind doesn’t work in an orderly way.
11. They need space to pace
While chatting on the telephone or having a discussion, individuals with ADD think better when they are on the move. Motion is soothing and brings clarity to their thoughts.
12. They procrastinate
Settling on a decision or finishing assignments on time is a battle. Not because they are irresponsible or lazy, but rather their brains are packed full of options and conceivable outcomes. Picking one can be scary for the ADD mind. It’s easy to abstain from making decisions due to the fact that they tend to over-think things. They fixate and dwell in the depths of their minds.
13. They can’t recall simple assignments
Another paradoxical trait of ADD is memory. Individuals with ADD forget to get their garments at the cleaners, milk at the market, or appointments. Then again; they recall each remark, quote, and telephone number they heard throughout the day. Regardless of the number of post-its or reminders they set; their easily distracted mind is always somewhere else. Visible items are simpler to recall. That is the reason they have fifteen windows open on their desktop.
14. They have numerous assignments going on at the same time
Due to the constant activity in their mind, once a task is finished, they are ready to move on to the next task without closing up the prior task. The more going on at once, the better. Multitasking is one of their favorite activities.
15. They are passionate about everything they do
The emotions, thoughts, words, and touch of a person with ADD is powerful. Everything is magnified. This is a blessing when channeled properly. When a person with ADD does something, they do it with their heart and soul. They give it all they’ve got. They are intense, perceptive, and deep. This quality is what makes the person with ADD so lovable.
Every relationship has its struggles, loving someone with ADD is different but it doesn’t have to be any more of a challenge than any relationship. Love is always the same. When you approach your partner with compassion and understanding they can open up and share all they have to offer.
Written by Brandon Rios