By Steven Bancarz| We have all heard the term “old soul” before, and many of us know someone who seems to have a soul that could be called “old”. This term simply refers to someone who displays a level of maturity, intelligence and wisdom that is well beyond their years.
When it comes to children, it is even easier to pick an old soul if you know what signs to look for. Many parents these days are raising children with old souls and aren’t even realizing it. Here are 5 signs that your child, or a child you know, is an old soul.
1) Your child is mature beyond their years
Your child understands that things in life don’t always work out as planned. They don’t make a big fuss when they can’t get what they want, and they don’t throw tantrums when they don’t get their way. I remember watching a video on YouTube of children reacting to their parents telling them they ate all of their Halloween candy. Most kids freaked out, but some said: “That’s ok, we’ll get some more next time.”
If your child is compassionate, patience, sympathetic, and can easily forgive other people, you can be sure that they are an old soul.
2) Your child asks deep, inquisitive questions
Your child may ask you questions like: “Where do thoughts come from?”, “Where do people go when they die?”, or “Where do I go when I have dreams?”. Some of the questions your child may ask you are so deep and dense that they may take you by surprise. More than wanting to watch TV, your child wants to have discussions on life’s biggest questions. Be sure to nurture their curiosity. Here is a video showing a child with an old soul discussion the meaning of life and the universe.
3) Your child is specially gifted in some way
Your child may have verbal, social, musical, or intellectual gifts that far surpass what should be expected for a child of that age. Sometimes, the are able to learn things in such a short time frame that it doesn’t make sense.
A good example of this is a child who learns how to play they piano without ever taking lessons, or who gets straight A’s in school without even trying. Some children are develop gifts with hard work, but some have special gifts without even needing to work for them.
4) Your child doesn’t seem to fit in
Your child doesn’t really want to watch television all day like other children. They would rather be in nature exploring and going on adventures. They get distracted easily in school because their imaginations are being suppressed, and they don’t relate to other children well because the playground dynamic just doesn’t appeal to them.
Because they refuse to play social roles and conform to normal societal behaviour, they won’t have many friends in comparison to other children. Don’t feel bad for them though. Allow them to discover their individuality, and encourage them to pursue their passions and desires in life. Rather than feeling pity for your child from not fitting it, feel proud that they are unique and will grow into happy self-reliant human beings.
These are just some of the signs that your child, or a child you know, is an old soul. The best thing you can do for an old soul is give them space and allow them to learn and discover on your own. Some kids may be fine growing up in a cookie-cutter environment, but some need the freedom to explore this reality on their own. If you know a child with an old soul, nurture them, encourage them to pursue their unique gifts and passions, and allow them room to breathe.
And don’t dismiss them or disregard them when they have something to say. They just might teach you something.