Negative thinking is one of the most difficult things to control, but it is an important thing to do if you want to point your life in a happier, more positive direction. The average person has thousands of thoughts every second, some of which are conscious self-inflicted ideas, and other that play silently in the background of our subconscious mind.
Just think about, how many thoughts go through your head a day? Some studies have placed the number at 50,000, others are as high as 80,000. But, the most shocking thing is, most of these thoughts are negative, repetitive, and serve no real purpose. It is, of course, no secret that your thoughts influence your effectiveness and your feelings, amongst other things. So, in short, they affect the quality of your life. Therefore, mental skills are not merely a luxury, they are a necessity.
“Good habits are hard to form but easy to live with. Bad habits are easy to form but hard to live with.”
The key is to create regular and consistent daily patterns that will take you where you want to go in life, helping you maximize yourself on every level possible.
Thinking of the Opposite
This is a simple thing. It stands to reason that most distracting thoughts are negative, and, therefore, have opposites. Reflect on the opposite; don’t just think about it either, feel it! If you are angry, try and think of something happy. Feel it with your whole body.
Perhaps the simplest of all, smiling has a way of automatically making people feel better. It really does help change your mood and relieve stress.
Eliminate the Negative
Use positive self-talk to overcome the doubts and negative thought that creep into your mind. Deliberately eliminate worries about difficulties and obstacles by taking a positive attitude, “I can overcome this challenge.” You do not ignore problems, you face up to them with a constructive and optimistic attitude.
Meditation has a way of taking your focus away from your thoughts and bringing attention to your breath. Meditation is extremely relaxing, helping to ease the mind. It will help you stay present to your experience so instead of jumping to what can happen, it brings you back to the now, the only and most important moment.
Take Note of 1 Positive Moment Every Day
Noticing the positive things that happen in your everyday life have been proven to be a successful method of increasing your positive thinking. That doesn’t just mean that it will happen while you are doing the exercise, the effects actually last much longer!
Change the tone of your thoughts from negative to positive
For example, instead of thinking, “We are going to have a hard time adjusting to our living situation,” think, “We will face some challenges in our living situation, but we will come up with solutions that we will both be happy with.”
I know, I know a lot of these things seem like they are easier said than done, but the truth is, you are the ruler of your own universe! Whatever you want to happen will happen, so if you go into this with a negative attitude more than likely the result will be negative! But, if you go in with a positive outlook, and say, “Today I am really going to do this, I am going to change. I am going to make a real effort to be more positive, and in doing this, positive things will happen.”
Try it out today, and you will be astonished at how much happier you will be!
“The mind is everything. What you think, you become.” Buddha