Empaths are highly sensitive beings who are easily misunderstood. They are sensitive, giving, loving, and of course, extremely anxious.
Love is not something that an empathy takes lightly, so when we choose to open up our hearts, expect to be blown away. It is very intense and powerful and messy and sometimes extremely hard to handle, but empaths do not know how to love any other way.
If you have read a few of my previous posts then you know what an empath is; a highly sensitive person who feeds off the energy/mood/emotions of people, situations and their environment to the point where they can take on those emotions as their own, much like a sponge.
However, there are a few things that you should know about loving an empath.
- Change is not in our cards, so please do not expect that
Nothing will drive an empath away more than if you try to change out sensitivity and emphatic abilities. We know we are different than a majority of other people you know but so what? We are sensitive, intuitive, easily overstimulate, and criers. We feel the pain of others! Do not try to change us, it will not work! What will happen is, we will close ourselves off to you immediately.
- Lies have no place in a conversation with us EVER
The surest way to ruin any kind of relationship with us is to lie. I have literally looked into the eyes of a close friend and see the hesitation for a split second and it was as if the lie slipped over my skin. It is impossible to explain, and it isn’t something that I want to explain. It is one of the most uncomfortable traits I hold and it has no turn off button.
- We are going to cry
We are going to cry when we are happy, sad, and angry. That is because we feel things more deeply than most people do.
- Decisions make us nervous
Highly sensitive people are notoriously bad at making decisions, even if it is just picking where we go to dinner. This is because we agonize over the possibility of making the wrong one. Save yourself a fight, and just choose.
- We notice subtle changes in tone
If you are a person that normally ends a message with an explanation point, and recently have changed to a period we will know. This is because we tend to be more intuitive to tiny nuances in our environment.
- We are givers
Empaths are moved by giving to people we love. There is a sense of pleasure in knowing we are making you happy. When we feel the appreciation we will be yours forever. Quality time is the best gift we can give, I will listen to your problems for hours and never say a word about myself. We will help you attain any goal you have for yourself, nothing is impossible as long as we feel that you love us.
- Alone time is non-negotiable
We need time to recuperate and re-energize in a space that is our own. It will look different for everyone but chances are we all need time alone. It can be very tiring always feeling the energy of the people that surround us, please do not be mad or annoyed when we need time to refuel by ourselves. It doesn’t mean we do not want to be around you. It means we need time to replenish ourselves so that we can be our best selves for you.
- Low pain tolerance
We have a low pain tolerance, highly sensitive people are more affected by pain than others. It really doesn’t matter if it is a broken leg or a stubbed tow any injury will hurt severely, pass the ice?
- If it is too much, please leave with grace
Perhaps you just met us at a wrong time, it was never meant to be forever or this is simply too much right now. Whatever it is, love us by leaving gracefully. Do not cage us or make us feel insecure about the people we are. Leave with respect and honesty. We will love and thank you for it.