In Brian Little’s latest book on personality science titled Me, Myself, and Us: The Science of Personality and the Art of Well-Being (https://www.brianrlittle.com/me-myself-us/?doing_wp_cron=1576793781.0698430538177490234375) it is shown that introverts and extraverts, as similar as they seem on the surface, respond to different situations in their own ways. He cites the theory of personality (https://study.com/academy/lesson/hans-jurgen-eysenck-personality-theory-lesson-quiz.html) by Hans Eysenck, explaining that both personalities differ when it comes to their alertness and responsiveness to a certain environment. When the stimulation of the central nervous system could make an extravert feel excited and engaged, it could cause an introvert to feel exhausted.
However, we could argue that introversion and extroversion are just parts of a bigger spectrum of personalities, as mentioned by Carl Jung (https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/evil-deeds/201205/essential-secrets-psychotherapy-jungs-typology-eudaemonology-and-the-elusive). Despite all that, both introverts and extraverts have qualities that give them away. Today we will discuss some of these.
Introverts succeed on stage – just not in the chat afterwards.
Most successful speakers and performers are introverted, according to Jennifer B. Kahnweiler. They just take more time preparing. Remaining on stage, mentally removing yourself from a crowd, playing to your strengths is much easier than having to get involved in chit-chats afterward.
Introverts are naturally drawn to more creative, detail-oriented and solitary careers.
Introverts naturally fit into works where they could sit alone or in a small group of people, solving one task at a time and taking their time when it comes to making decisions and solving problems. For example, professions, akin to writers, natural scientists, and behind-the-scenes tech workers can give an introvert just the right amount of stimulation that they need.
They withdraw in crowds.
People nowadays have to work in the cities where they have to prove themselves in a crowd of complete strangers. But the crowd is often noisy, congested and generally unpleasant to be in. It drains introverts’ of their physical energy and makes them want to be even more isolated because they feel more isolated than supported by such surroundings.
Small talk stresses them out, while deeper conversations make them feel alive.
It’s not uncommon in large conversations for introverts to just listen quietly and then take time alone to restore their powers afterwards. Most extroverts are energized by small talk, while introverts usually find it too intimidating, exhausting or ultimately meaningless. Instead, introverts prefer deeper conversations about something they like, be it something they’ve watched/read, philosophical ideas and so on.
They think before they speak.
This habit is what usually makes introverts seem like listeners, but the thing is, instead of trying to think out loud, they take their time to reflect on what they want to say. It’s not that they are shy, it’s just that when they speak, they have much more thought behind them.
They don’t take on the mood of their environment like extraverts do.
It was revealed in a study (https://www.livescience.com/37427-extroverts-have-different-brain-processes.html) published in the journal ‘Frontiers in Human Neuroscience’ that introverts and extraverts experience different reactions from being present in certain environments. When surrounded by new environment, extraverts usually feel dopamine rush, but introverts tend to not sense anything of such nature. Naturally introverted people do not process rewards from any external factors as strongly as extraverts.
They physically can’t stand talking on the phone.
Phones are intrusive in nature. If they ring, you should give up anything you’ve been doing and start talking with whoever wishing to talk to you. And people often demand to answer the phone too. More than that, even phone conversations, as urgent as they may be, require some small talk, which is, in its own way, quite meaningless. Introverts usually try to avoid phone calls entirely or have people leaving voicemails so that they could return them when they have enough energy to actually dedicate themselves to the conversation.
When surrounded by people, they locate themselves close to an exit.
As we discussed before, introverts feel really uncomfortable in crowds and to mediate that discomfort, they locate themselves closer to the places where they can’t be surrounded by people, be it an exit, back or sides of a concert hall, or less crowded places in lecture halls. They’re just likely to sit in places where they can get away when they want and are ready to.
They can be the life of the party, sometimes.
Introverts definitely have the ability to entertain people, but they don’t always choose to do so. If they do something like that, they usually do it out of necessity, politeness, or some other similar obligation. It doesn’t come to them naturally but they can really succeed at it if they have enough preparation and willpower to pull it off. It drains more energy but sometimes they do better than extraverts because of how much thought goes into what they’re doing.
Attention-seeking behaviors annoy them.
Introverts don’t usually like being the center of attention. Neither do they like seeing someone trying hard to become the center of attention, especially when someone tries to get their attention by doing something unnecessary.
They shut down when it’s time to be alone.
It’s easier for an introvert to become too stimulated and tired for social activities. This is when it’s time for them to lie down for some time, have a cup of tea, watch their favorite film, just to refill that energy that they’ve lost on socializing. They need and they want to go out but sometimes, they just need a little rest.