Pms, and the women that experience it, have gotten a bad rap.
So what is the real story behind this bitchy mystery called PMS?
Yes there are varying contributing factors, such as diet and hormone imbalances, although there is a major cause that has gone not been acknowledged .
We live in a patriarchal world, driven by masculine values. Our culture is non-stop thinking, doing, and going. We are competing, fighting to prove ourselves, striving to make ends meet, and trying to figure it all out.
We are submerged in a masculine-based system.
Woman have put their very own Nature aside, to adapt for their success and survival in a culture that over-values the masculine and under-values the feminine.
A woman’s cycle is the epitome of her womanhood, and feminine expression. Before and during our Moon cycle/or period, we are at our most sensitive and receptive state. We are open conduits, and feel most deeply at this time… which contrary to what you were taught, is a GOOD thing.
We are taught to plug it up, act happy and keep going. Go to work, take care of the kids, please the husband, etc.
What we weren’t taught, was that ancient and tribal cultures revered a woman’s ability to create life. Woman was honored for her intuition, wisdom and creativity. They honored feminine cycle as a sacred time to receive valuable insights and creative ideas that would lead the community.
They knew that at the time of the cycle, the veils are thinnest, and that Woman, being receiving in Nature, is built to receive this intuitive wisdom.
They inherently knew that the cycle was a is the time for reflection, a time to shed all that doesn’t serve us any more (as the womb sheds its walls), it is a time to rest and rejuvenate the body, receive spiritual insight and creative inspirations. There were sanctuary spaces, such as Red Tents, for women to be only with other women, to be nurtured, and to rest and receive.
The reason why women today get so bitchy, before and during their period, IS BECAUSE WE WERE BUILT TO BE WOMEN- NOT MEN.
Whether our minds admit it or not, OUR BODIES ARE SICK OF IT.
Before and during the cycle our bullshit meter is on high because we are extra intuitive. This is a good thing and because of this, the things we disliked but put up with before, are impossible to tolerate (Such as an insensitive patriarchal society that dishonors a women’s real gifts. It’s enough to make you a bit edgy).
The body and soul are asking for SPACE. A break. Stillness to connect with ourselves for once. A moment to be a woman. Some silence to receive guidance, creative inspiration, and to feel. To feel our Earthly and Spiritual Roots. At this time we feel the emotions of the Earth and the collective and the injustices that exist. This is an honor, and if we let it, it drives our purpose in the world. This is what replenishes us, and drives our focus for the rest of the month if we allow it.
Let’s not forget that we are bleeding non-stop for days on end. Its kind of a big deal.
This is why it is up to us to learn our bodies, educate the people around us, speak our needs and create a new way together.
7 ways to overcome PMS by giving yourself what you really need.
Make alone time.
Do what you have to do to create stillness and solitude for yourself. Create some sanctuary space and decorate it the way you like. Push past any limiting beliefs around lack of worthiness or permission to do this, it is your birthright as a woman.
listen to what inspires you and go with it, whether it be writing, painting, singing, praying, dancing, crying, making a Nature mandala. As the blood flows, so does the creativity!
Be in Nature.
This is profoundly important. Our cycles are a direct connection to the feminine and a time when our body has prepared for Motherhood. It is most fulfilling at this time to be with the Ultimate Mother, Mother Earth. She will nourish, inspire, and rejuvenate you. Listen to her, rest with her, admire her beauty.
Listen to your body and nourish it.
It’s a good idea to make extra meals before hand so you dont have to cook. Rest, take baths, get a massage, or whatever your body wants, when it wants it. The only permission you need is your own.
Ask for what you need.
Just do it. Have the courage to admit what you need ands ask for it because you deserve it, and because we must pave a new path for our daughters and daughter’s daughters.
Enjoy being a woman!
Go crazy. Surround yourself with flowers, oils, incense, make a feminine altar, put on some sexy music, wear a red scarf or your favorite flowy dresses. Enjoy being a fertile woman.
Just because. Go for it but make sure its healthy chocolate, maybe raw with natural sugars. If you are a man reading this to learn about your lady (Yay!) keep some extra chocolate around, for your sake and for hers 🙂 Heehee