We all have that friend who thinks that the reason they can’t find a soul mate is because they are too smart; but are they onto something? Does intelligence make it harder to find love?
Of course, by saying that I am not implying that in order to find love you have to be stupid, what I am saying is that highly intelligent people have a harder time falling in love, and here is why!
Intelligent people tend to be way more guarded. It is so hard for them to open up because an analytical brain never stops reflecting back on past situations where they gave in and opened up to a person only to get hurt in the process. Because they are so guarded other people assume that they are cold or distant.
People of higher intelligence do not dance around issues. They confront problems in a relationship head on, and with the confidence that they are right. Most people don’t like that, but they know they are right and what is wrong, and don’t mind letting you know what is wrong in the relationship.
Highly intelligent people think very analytically. Being with the wrong person is the worst thing that could ever happen to them. Being very rational, it is easier to be alone that it is to be with someone who does not deserve them. Mostly, smart people are single, because they choose to be single, it is their own decision.
Intelligent people tend to have better foresight and predictions. They have the ability to analyze a situation, recall relevant past experiences, and make an educated assessment of the future possibilities. Smart people are quicker to duck out of relationships at the first sign of trouble. Knowing the fact that, the experience is the best teacher, then, smarter people will rely on experience to guide them on the proper way. Usually, every relationship has a similar situation. What ruined one relationship, does not always have to ruin another, but for people who rely heavily on their experiences, they can often walk away at the first sign of trouble.
A mind, especially a clever one, can sometimes confuse the heart. There are some simple moves to make your heart and mind work together. First, learn the advantages and disadvantages of the mind. To a certain point, rational thinking is beneficial, but it can sometimes go overboard. Then, learn to discern your heart from your rational mind. Listen to your heart, your inner voice may not always be clear, but it is trying to tell you something. Learn how to listen to it sometimes.
The purpose of a relationship is to practice the loving part. No partner is going to be 100 percent anyway, so learn to appreciate people for what they have to bring to the table, not what they don’t. And love them for that, that is what real love is.
Nobody wants you to lower your standard, which is not what I am saying; you should want to spend your time only with worthwhile company. But, do question the standards to see whether they are serving you or you are serving them.
When you learn to open your heart to love, you may find fulfillment in ways you never imagined to be possible.